Thursday, 10 May 2012

Goodbye 40. Hello 41.

Tomorrow is my birthday, its not a very big birthday and certainly not as huge as the big 40 which was last year. Being 41 got me thinking about the title of my blog and whether or not I should change it to The 40ish Year Old Domestic Goddess or The 40+ Year Old Domestic Goddess. After a lot of soul searching I have decided to leave it as it is. Why? Well the answer is simple......I have no intention of getting any older in the blogging world and lets face it, its the one place you can stay forever young. I did think about adding several years on so that when people ask how old I am and I say 49 they would hopefully say "wow you look good for your age".
I have to say that this past year has been without a doubt one of the best ever. I sat and read the blog I wrote on the day I turned 40 and smiled to myself. I was so worried and nervous about it all that I failed to notice the huge amount of love and support I had around me.

In my blog dated 11/5/2011 I wrote the following paragraph......

They say that life begins at 40.....but so do fallen arches, rheumatism, faulty eye sight and the tendency to tell a story to the same person 3 or 4 times.
Well I say bring it on......if my arches fall I will wear stilettos, if rheumatism comes along I wont have to go to the gym any more, if my eyes go wrong then that's a great excuse to eat someone else's pudding and claim that I thought it was mine and as for telling a story more than once, well I do that anyway so what the hell.

So lets analyse the above mentioned shall we.
1. Luckily my arches didn't fall, however I have now reverted to flat shoes as for some reason whenever I wear heels I look like a baby deer ice skating.

2. Rheumatism did not (thank god) come along and I am still going to the gym. We will not mention this due to unforeseen circumstances involving a piece of loo paper and a bad case of wind see blog dated 26/04/12.


3. Eye sight, well yes as predicted my eyesight literally went bad over night. I now have to hold a book about 6 feet away to read it and if someone can hold it down the end of the garden then that's even better.

4. Telling a story to the same person 3 times....Well I now do that on a daily basis due to all of you lovely followers reading my blog.

As well as worrying about all of that the main thing that bothered me was that I would feel different. Well that's true in many ways, I do feel different. Its like a switch has been turned on in my head and suddenly I can see things so much clearer. People that are in my life are there because I want them there and not just because I should have them in it. I suddenly appreciate all the little things that I took for granted before, all the small gestures of kindness that I come across each day and all the smiles that greet me.
The kids are suddenly becoming self sufficient and The Husband and I find ourselves alone most Saturday evenings while the kids are off out at sleepovers and get togethers. We have reverted to becoming extremely childish ourselves and laugh until we cannot breathe. The kids (when home) just look on in total embarrassment and then do that thing where they glance at each other and as if telepathic, then both roll their eyes in unison.
Sundays are family days, and we all make sure we are in each others company. I want my kids to look back with fond memories of our Sunday strolls and dinner round the table and their Dad doing his groovy dance moves as he cooks Sunday lunch. While I look on helplessly laughing.

Its a shame that it has taken me this long to really feel comfortable in my own skin and stop worrying about what every other bugger thinks. I am going to cherish the last few years of the kids actually wanting to come on holiday with us and am going to enjoy watching them grow up to be the amazing adults that I know they will be.

I guess what I am trying to say to anyone that is yet to reach 40 is that you do change and its definitely for the better. If you have younger children cherish them now and don't let anyone ever make you fell that you are not doing a fantastic job. People may try and put you down or crush your dreams but remember to keep them alive in your head and heart and eventually your time will come to shine.



I know that this isn't my usual style of writing and for that I apologise. So with that in mind  ...........   I am off to change my incontinence knickers for the 4th time today and then I shall be off to pluck my chin hair. Once those little joyous tasks are completed I shall then be slipping into something more comfortable like a coma...................... Oh sorry! Didn't I mention the downsides to turning 40.

Love You All
Me
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15 comments:

  1. Ooh I'm glad you changes your font as my 41 year old eyes couldn't read it the other day! It is true as I am the same age as you that you do see things clearly and the whole weight and looks thig definitely becomes more of an uphill battle, but yes like you I am more comfortable with who I am than I was and the whole stigma about being 40 is a joke! Great post xx

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    1. Thats exactly the reason why I changed it....couldnt read it myself.
      Thanks so much for reading
      Lots of Love xx

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  2. lovely post - I am 38 - 39 this year 40 next! I don't do odd numbers so I should be okay. It comes to us all and it'll be my time to step up soon. Funnily enough I did think about your blog title the other day and I say yes always keep it 40 year old! x

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    1. Thanks my darling. Glad you agree with the title.

      Thanks for reading
      Lots of Love xx

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  3. I'm really enjoying my 40s. I had no confidence in 20s and no money in my 30s, have both in my 40s :-)

    Happy Birthday! xx

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    1. Thanks Lesley, I agree life is much easier. Thanks for reading xxxxx

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  4. Happy birthday. We would have been in the same year at school. I was 41 last November. Loving your new look blog! XXX

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    1. Thanks so much for reading the blog, glad you liked the new look xx

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  5. What a wonderful post!! Happy birthday again sweetie, much love xxx

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  6. I've definitely felt more comfortable in my own skin since turning thirty (I'll be 37 in November) so I can relate to what you mean. Good on you, it sounds like you're having a great time. I loved reading this post, it's really inspiring, uplifting and obviously funny #OldiesButGoodies xx

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  7. I love this post and can totally relate to what you're saying - I feel exactly the same. Turning 40 kind of crept up on me, now that I'm almost 42, I've probably had the best 23 months ever! I too feel far more comfortable with who I am and that's a great thing :) Thanks for sharing on #oldiesbutgoodies this month :) x x

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